Figuring out what works and what doesn't and how to deal with it.
Here are a few more of the things I've learned about that thing called Adult Life.
(Also, the list is continual, so don't be alarmed by the numbers.)
6. Don't give up when things get hard.
This is really hard for me personally because when I get stressed out and things get difficult, my anxiety takes over and I don't feel like I can do it. Don't give up on any of it. After graduating college, finding a job doing something I enjoyed was extremely difficult. The job I was at at this time was mentally and physically exhausting and parts of the management team made it difficult to be at 100%. I had applied for close to 100 jobs and got a ton of rejection letters. It hurts and can be discouraging, but I pushed myself and now I have something lined up for the next chapter of my life and it is definitely worth it!
7. Things will change before you know it and it's not always a bad thing.
Out of the blue, paths will change. It'll add new directions and cut off others completely. It's an exciting feeling to know that nothing is every truly constant. People, jobs, relationships, circumstance. All of it. It will suck at times, but you can get through it! Sometimes, it takes some tears but you can always push through it. Talk it out with a friend, mentor or therapist and keep going. You are never alone and there is always help.
8. Keep certain things to yourself.
You may have something life changing in your path and want to tell everyone, but sometimes it can hurt you more than help. Sharing with family and close friends is completely fine, but make sure to maintain confidentiality. Word spreads fast and it could end up costing you. I know I've had my moments where I should've stayed silent and it ended up putting me in a little hole. When the time does come for you to move on, the best thing you can do is be positive about it and be ready for that change. Make sure you submit a 2-weeks notice at your current job. It will keep your resume looking well and shows dependability when you're on the job market. Although "quitting like a champ" may be a fun concept and idea, it isn't going to make you look very well to your possible future employers.
9. Self-Care is extremely important.
It seems silly, but taking a few minutes out of each day to take care of yourself is vital. I've read some great articles on self care tips (which I will link below) and some fun things to do during that time. I'll probably mention certain self-care type things throughout this series, but the concept is extremely important. Keeping up with you will help you keep up with life. The quote about is actually from a book I have been reading recently called, "Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind To Yourself." It's not really a self-help book, it's more of a life book. It gives different situations and how people handle it and suggestions on how to handle certain things and to care more about yourself and mental well-being in the process. I started reading the book at a very difficult time in my life and recently started to reread it and wow. It has reminded me that in order to care truly about others, we need to care about ourselves. "
10. Be organized and stay organized.
I love everything that deals with organizing. I recently purchased a new planner and have had the best time writing everything in it! I make time every week (sometimes multiple times a week) to go over my schedule. I sync my Google Calendar (which, btw, is the absolute best) to my phone and tablet and compare it to my planner. I also try to schedule time to be alone or focus on things that will help me (going back to that whole self-care thing..). When it comes to my money and how I spend it, I use Mint to help me keep track, categorize and plan for the month. This helps me organize all of my expenses and show me what I need to calm down on and save for.
Slowly but surely, I'm getting there.
Here are some of the articles and things I referred to and others that I hope are helpful:
http://www.eyelinerwingsandprettythings.com/get-your-life-together/#more-1071
http://www.classicingray.com/easy-ways-to-practice-self-care/
6. Don't give up when things get hard.
This is really hard for me personally because when I get stressed out and things get difficult, my anxiety takes over and I don't feel like I can do it. Don't give up on any of it. After graduating college, finding a job doing something I enjoyed was extremely difficult. The job I was at at this time was mentally and physically exhausting and parts of the management team made it difficult to be at 100%. I had applied for close to 100 jobs and got a ton of rejection letters. It hurts and can be discouraging, but I pushed myself and now I have something lined up for the next chapter of my life and it is definitely worth it!
7. Things will change before you know it and it's not always a bad thing.
Out of the blue, paths will change. It'll add new directions and cut off others completely. It's an exciting feeling to know that nothing is every truly constant. People, jobs, relationships, circumstance. All of it. It will suck at times, but you can get through it! Sometimes, it takes some tears but you can always push through it. Talk it out with a friend, mentor or therapist and keep going. You are never alone and there is always help.
8. Keep certain things to yourself.
You may have something life changing in your path and want to tell everyone, but sometimes it can hurt you more than help. Sharing with family and close friends is completely fine, but make sure to maintain confidentiality. Word spreads fast and it could end up costing you. I know I've had my moments where I should've stayed silent and it ended up putting me in a little hole. When the time does come for you to move on, the best thing you can do is be positive about it and be ready for that change. Make sure you submit a 2-weeks notice at your current job. It will keep your resume looking well and shows dependability when you're on the job market. Although "quitting like a champ" may be a fun concept and idea, it isn't going to make you look very well to your possible future employers.
"When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you being to discover that it's bottomless, that it doesn't have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You being to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space." -Pema Chödrön
9. Self-Care is extremely important.
It seems silly, but taking a few minutes out of each day to take care of yourself is vital. I've read some great articles on self care tips (which I will link below) and some fun things to do during that time. I'll probably mention certain self-care type things throughout this series, but the concept is extremely important. Keeping up with you will help you keep up with life. The quote about is actually from a book I have been reading recently called, "Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind To Yourself." It's not really a self-help book, it's more of a life book. It gives different situations and how people handle it and suggestions on how to handle certain things and to care more about yourself and mental well-being in the process. I started reading the book at a very difficult time in my life and recently started to reread it and wow. It has reminded me that in order to care truly about others, we need to care about ourselves. "
10. Be organized and stay organized.
I love everything that deals with organizing. I recently purchased a new planner and have had the best time writing everything in it! I make time every week (sometimes multiple times a week) to go over my schedule. I sync my Google Calendar (which, btw, is the absolute best) to my phone and tablet and compare it to my planner. I also try to schedule time to be alone or focus on things that will help me (going back to that whole self-care thing..). When it comes to my money and how I spend it, I use Mint to help me keep track, categorize and plan for the month. This helps me organize all of my expenses and show me what I need to calm down on and save for.
Slowly but surely, I'm getting there.
Here are some of the articles and things I referred to and others that I hope are helpful:
http://www.eyelinerwingsandprettythings.com/get-your-life-together/#more-1071
http://www.classicingray.com/easy-ways-to-practice-self-care/
http://www.levo.com/articles/career-advice/8-amazing-ted-talks-every-woman-should-watch-in-her-20s
https://www.buzzfeed.com/brettvergara/lets-give-ted-somethin-to-talk-about-how-about-love?utm_term=.imxA8kdAZ#.ojyQYvnQ8
http://www.ted.com/playlists/353/talks_to_help_practice_patienc?utm_campaign=social&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_content=playlist&utm_term=social-science
https://www.buzzfeed.com/brettvergara/lets-give-ted-somethin-to-talk-about-how-about-love?utm_term=.imxA8kdAZ#.ojyQYvnQ8
http://www.ted.com/playlists/353/talks_to_help_practice_patienc?utm_campaign=social&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_content=playlist&utm_term=social-science
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